Below you will find information regarding topics covered in the weekly social skills groups.
As part of our
group, we use specific terms to identify these concepts and help us discuss
them. In order to have our skills generalize to the classroom and home, it is
best to use these same terms. Here is a list of the different terms and phrases
we have been using.
Expected Behaviors & Unexpected Behaviors
environment has a set of unwritten rules that people expect to be followed such
as talking when it is your turn, respecting personal space, etc. When people
follow these rules, some of which are not always explained to the student, then
he is considered to be “doing what is expected”.
Students who don’t follow the rules are doing what is unexpected and people may feel uncomfortable or have “weird” thoughts
You can change my feelings
have feelings/reactions about other people’s behavior. Sometimes people have
good feelings when people behave by doing what is expected and other times they have annoyed or angry feelings when
others do what is unexpected.
Students learn that their behavior affects other people’s feelings.
Identifying the size of a problem
Not all problems merit the same concern or reaction. Discuss with your child if it was truly a big problem (near a crisis) or a much smaller problem (glitch)
Big Problem- problems that affect multiple people and take a long time to fix. It is expected to have "big" feelings with these problems, such as being furious or depressed.
Little Problem- problems that can affect others, take some time to fix, and may require the help of others to solve (i.e. broken leg). It is expected to be sad or angry when these types of problems occur.
Glitch- problems that can easily be fixed by ourselves in a short period of time (i.e. broken pencil, getting into an argument with a friend, getting a problem wrong on a test). We should be able to fix these problems quickly and move on.
Add-A-Thought- Adding a brief statement in conversation to relate the current topic to yourself and your experience.
Follow-Up Questions- Asking a person questions regarding the same topic being discussed to learn more about them
Supporting Comments- Comments such as "oh, that's cool", "gross!", or "that's nice" to let the person know you were listening.